I am not talking about all the things we “should be” doing every day like eating right and exercise. I am talking about immediate stress relief for moms. The days when the children are getting on your last nerve, you didn’t get much sleep last night (or since they were born,) you feel physically tense all over. What are some things that really work in the moment?
Do Yoga, Yes, even with the kids all over you
Yoga is incredible for getting stress out. It is convenient too. You can stop anywhere you are and breathe with a light stretch, sitting, standing or laying down. A simple focus of your center can get you through the rest of the day when the kids are bouncy. If you can do a yoga session at home with the kids hanging all over you, do it! Whenever my young ones see my yoga mat come out they know mom is about to become a horse, bridge, and tunnel to crawl over, under and through. I take it as a challenge for my core to balance and my arms and legs to become stronger when this happens. I may not get a full session in but I get some quality breathing and stretching and end up feeling much better than I did in the beginning.
If the kids are being too much for yoga or if you get that feeling that you just CANT have little hands on you for another second! Switch it up, just get moving. Do some jumping jacks or run through the house. If it’s nice out you could even get outside for 5-10 minutes and have a race. That will do all of you some good. They will follow your lead and join in the fun that mom is having. You will feel better releasing some of that energy and so will the kids. Keep it light and you will probably laugh by the end of it because someone will do something silly. Laughing is a great way to alleviate stress as well so you get double the amount of relief!
Lavender Essential Oil and a Diffuser
Getting a calming scent in the air will calm you and the kids down. I like to put my oils in a diffuser so the scent whiffs through the air and everyone can feel how I want them to feel. It really works! Retailers and theme parks do this little trick to keep you happy and hungry. Melaleuca has some quality products including the oils and diffuser (ask me for specifics on how to buy from them). When I host parties I put a fun citrus scent in my diffuser and put it next to the door and gathering area. When I host thanksgiving I put a rich cinnamon in it. When I want everyone in the house to have calm time (or mom is getting a little crazy) I put a lavender or stress-free mixture in and set the diffuser in the room I am currently in. It’s pretty much guaranteed that wherever mom goes, so goes everyone else right?!
Lavender is probably one of the most popular. I love the smell but there are a lot of options! When you find one you like, breathe deep, close your eyes and re-adjust your thoughts.
Mindful Cuddle Time
Sit down or lay down with the kids! This part is all about your mindset. You may be stressed about how the day is going or the kids are getting to be too much but they need mommy time and you are not able to get away from them. They are showing you they need you in the only way they know how. Sit down, turn on a show or read a book, let them snuggle up with you and recognize that this is a very special time. The dishes can wait for 20 minutes while the children get their quality mommy fix. Shift your focus on the sight, touch, and even smell of your babies. (Warning, when they get older your baby may not smell the greatest…this could be a time to take note about a conversation you need to have with them a little later, enjoy this time with them in the moment.)
Everything you do, your children see and copy. If you speak up and tell them you are feeling stressed and you need a time out for a few minutes they will learn what that means. Factor in their ages. A 4 year old is not going to wait 20 minutes. A 10 year old certainly can. Set a time away and tell them you will be back in that set amount of time. You will be amazed what 1 or 2 minutes can do for your sanity. Don’t stay away forever, come back in that set amount of time so they know they can rely on you to do what you say. Come back a refreshed person. Your children will start to do the same when they feel stressed and it will follow them into adulthood.
In my experience, I found around 4 years old they understand that mom can have some alone time and come back to them. If they are 2-4 they really don’t understand time but you could probably distract them and lock yourself in the bathroom for a minute or 2. Just to get the little hands off you. If they are younger than 2 you can’t really communicate this to them so, sorry, you will have to pick one of the other options here.
Get one thing DONE
I am sure if you are this stressed, you have not been able to complete anything today. Finish one thing! If you can complete one thing you will feel better and you can check it off your accomplishment list for the day. Since you can’t really give yourself a massage, have something do it for you. Throw one of these wraps on as you deal with the kids or get your one thing done! A massage and essential oils? It’s like you have left and went to a day spa! Just kidding, but you will feel better! hehe
Instead of removing myself from a situation like I mentioned earlier, I will tell my kids to give me 5 minutes and I will finish something. This idea gets the pressure off your shoulders, the house feels better and you feel better. Here is a secret: A lot of times the kids will get distracted and give you more time than 5 minutes.
Give Yourself a Time Out
Accomplish 1 Thing
Peace and Balance,