COVID 19 is something I am not going to bore you with. You have heard it all and it changes hour by hour BUT now that we are all supposed to stay at home. Let’s be REAL for a minute about “Stay – Home Mom Depression” I feel it creeping up on me. I swear the only reason I get out of bed some days is because the young ones jump on me in my bed if I don’t get up and feed them. Being a single mom is rough when you can’t get out as much as you like – AND NEED!
Now, before I get too much into this, I am not a Doctor, nor do I pretend to be one. I am only a mom who tries to be REAL and I have noticed Stay Home Mom Depression is a real thing that I want to talk about with my community. I am sure that I am not the only one who has trouble getting up in the morning, or getting excited about something, or feels they have a purpose at this time in our world. Please SHARE what you are going through with this community. We all have ideas and need the support!
As much as possible. Tell yourself and your kids you will go outside for 10 minutes with them (you know they will remind you and bug you until you fulfill your promise hehe). The fresh air and sunshine will refresh you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically! Vitamin D is SO good for your immune system and the sun is the best way to get it. 10 minutes will turn into an hour, and then 2 hours. You will feel so much better.
- Kick a ball around (it doesn’t have to be a big space. Show off your ball handling skills! or play 500!)
- Search for Snipes
- (attempt to) Do handstands
- Read to them – YES OUTSIDE!
- Create a scavenger hunt
- As you take a walk today have your children create a scavenger hunt for you to do tomorrow – take a different route and see how creative they can really get
- Decorate a pixie, Phoenix, manticore or some other mythical creature trap and set it out the evening before… sneak out and sprinkle glitter, feathers, whatever the creature would have to make it look like the creature got away
- OK OK OK You caught me on the Snipes, maybe search for real bugs or animals
- Do you know about Geocaching? It’s free unless you want to find more and really get into it. My children will never forget last summer when we discovered it. SO much fun and you can do it whenever you want and wherever you are! SO FUN! Something we did was create a code name for our family. Something else we will share forever.
- Take a drive and blast their favorite tunes! Only one rule… you must sing to every song.
Getting outside really makes me feel like I have left the house into a whole new world. I come back home refreshed and so do the kids (even if we were only in the back yard or took a walk around the block). I am creating memories in this crazy time. How are you doing it?
You may have to ask your kids for help on this one. Get an art project going. Don’t think you are an artist? Then neither will your kids! Have fun with it. Finger paint, draw on each other with washable markers, dye each other’s hair with temporary hair color, balance rocks – it doesn’t matter! Getting creative will keep your mind active and it will get the ball rolling down the hill to bigger, better, crazier things! Are you ready for what you guys can create together? Frankly, I get a little bit scared when I see the little mouse in my children’s heads start running in his wheel at 100 mph.
Using this part of your brain actually re-wires it to think more and more creatively; Giving YOU something to get up in the morning for.
Yes, we hear this all the time but I know when I have a bunch of sugar and fatty food than a big bowl of cereal right before bed, not only do I not sleep well, I feel like utter poop the next day and the cycle continues. There is a ton of fresh food in the stores right now. Get enough for a week. When I get home from the store I fill up the sink with some soapy water with a bit of vinegar in there and I dump all my fruits and veggies in there to wash them. I leave all the fruit out on the counter, put my grapes in a separate bowl so I can put them in the fridge at night. None of us have any excuses not to munch throughout the day. I have noticed whatever I place in the middle of the counter will be gone at the end of the day. It’s just too easy!
Eating right changes you physically and mentally. You don’t need me to tell you this again and again. When your body feels better inside, you will feel better all around, keeping the depression a little further from you.
Set a Time Limit
You have seen my other posts about setting a timer for yourself. 5-minutes of your time does need to be figured into your day if you get nothing else. I am not really talking about that right now, though. I am talking about the screen time and the “extras” that are not edifying to your soul. When you sit down at the end of the night tell yourself you will watch this show and that is it… THEN TURN IT OFF!
My quarantine addictions include Netflix, Hulu, Disney+, Instagram, TikTok, and those dumb games on my phone. When I get into my shows on Hulu, I could go all night! I have set a bedtime for myself and I stick to it within a half-hour or so. When I get onto TikTok 2 hours goes by easily and you have literally nothing to show for that time. This is a problem. I say this kidding-ly but also very seriously. These things are meant to keep us locked in and they are VERY good at what they do. When your mind gets into these addictions it chemically shifts. Does that make you think maybe this is leading to the next day’s depression? I think it does!!
Be aware of how much time you actually put into those things, this is step one then set a healthy time limit on yourself. You won’t be missing out. You will be the opposite…whatever that is… Your mind will not rely on these things so much and it will start to work differently. The next day you will feel better and the next and the next. Pretty soon you will go through the whole day without turning on a show or checking your phone. OK, sorry, I didn’t mean to scare you like that hehe!
This is a REAL thing we are facing right now. You have to get ahold of your life or you will regret this time. We will never have time like this again. Make the most of it with yourself and with your children. They will remember the great quarantine of 2020 and how YOU made their days the best they have had in the worst situation going on in the world.
Let us know your ideas, struggles, encouragements, and successes! We are all in this together – well – separate but together.
Set your brain and body differently and stick to your goals!
One day at a time with the future in mind!
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