As a mom the time flies, leaving you feeling like you have done nothing for yourself the entire day. The time we hoped to have for ourselves went to our children. We aren’t complaining, no, we don’t complain. It’s our duty and our pleasure to make sure these little blessings get everything they need and deserve. It is now night, all little eyes are asleep and it is time to reclaim the last 20 minutes of the day for yourself. Rejuvenate so you can start again tomorrow.
It’s a nice thought to do this every night but sometimes you are just too exhausted or the kids get to bed late, or, or, or…. you know things come up. You can still attempt to take the last 20 minutes of the day for yourself but please don’t think this is a guarantee in your life, especially if your kids are young. If you miss your full 20 minutes that you were counting on you will be more anxious and frustrated that it didn’t happen and end in a downward spiral of feeling miserable the next day, then being too exhausted that night and feeling more miserable the 3rd day… it’s not worth it.
Understand that this is a luxury for you. If you get 5 minutes tonight, you should have your priority and everything else is gravy. My end of the night routine is often brushing my teeth and getting the makeup off my face. A few times a week, however, the stars align, everyone is in bed and I have the mindset of resting myself for the next day (usually because I know the next day will be busy).
My first 5 minutes is my priority. If (and when) a child interrupts I know that my 5 minutes is something that I need for ME. My priority usually involves a shower. If I get my shower I feel like I did something for myself. I take off my eye makeup before getting in the shower and wash my face well while I’m in there. I have a thing about my face. If it feels clean, the rest of me just needs a quick rinse and I’m good to go if I need to jump out. That is my first 5 minutes.
Write down your priority so you can look forward to something and so you will feel like the last little bit of your day was just for you, check it off your to-do list and feel proud of yourself.
Here is where you can get lost. Set a timer if you would like, but you will get to know what will help you feel refreshed for the next day and what may feel like a waste of precious time. Unlike my other posts, 20 minutes doesn’t necessarily mean 20 minutes. It could be 5. It could be a whole hour (oh, man! could you imagine??)
Your mindset is the key to your relaxation with this part. If you only get 5 minutes, be grateful for that reset. If all I get is a 5-minute shower, I look forward to the next day when I can put makeup on a nice clean face. If I can get my anti-aging cream and sei-bella rejuvenating serum on after my shower, I feel like heaven when I crawl in my bed. If I am able to slather my skin with my favorite Renew lotion and brush my teeth longer than usual, I sleep better. These things are my gravy, the more I am able to do for myself, the more grateful I feel by the time I hit that pillow.
I know you are tired
This time might be tempting to skip at the end of a long day. You know and I know you are tired. A 5-20 minute reset doesn’t always sound like something you want. I do skip mine once in a while. When I know that I will fall asleep in 30 seconds flat (not exaggerating, I am this tired a lot of the time), 5 minutes seems like a burden more than a rejuvenating experience. I have found that when I take my 5-20 minutes, I sleep better and I don’t take as long the next day to get prepared. 5 minutes in the shower washing my face saves me about 10 minutes if I do it in the morning. It saves me about 15-20 minutes if the kids end up interrupting me. 5 minutes at night is worth it for me.
Getting started when you are tired is the hardest step. I tell myself one thing I want to accomplish – usually getting the makeup off my face. Since it is just as easy to wash my face in a sink than it is in the shower, I get in the shower, before you know it I am feeling fresh. Added bonus: I just saved time for the morning by preparing myself at night.
Start tonight. Have one thing you would LOVE to get done for yourself in mind. Write it on your accomplishment board. Have a few things After the kids are asleep, the laundry is folded, and the kitchen is tidy head for the bathroom. Do your one thing. No interruptions? Do another thing you have wanted to.
You Are Worth The Time
Check It Off Your To-Do List
Peace and Balance,